Why Do I Dream Of My Teeth Falling Out?

A friend just posted something on my facebook page about a dream he had.  In the dream, his teeth were being pulled out, though it didn’t hurt and he noticed that his teeth were very large.  It reminded me that this dream image, while not necessarily in the top five (falling, flying, being chased and being stuck) is absolutely universal and for those who have it, it can be very, very disturbing.  This was one of the most prominent recurring dreams of my own throughout my twenties and into my early thirties, so I’ve given this one a good deal of thought and here’s what I’ve come up with.

Teeth do three things for us.  Firstly, they help us nourish ourselves by preparing our food for digestion.  In fact, in order to truly benefit from anything we take into our bodies, our teeth must work effectively.  Secondly, we learn how to attract love by revealing them in a smile.  Try it sometime; it works!  Thirdly, we protect ourselves with aggression by revealing them in a snarl.

So: nourishment, love and protection.  Without these three key ingredient’s our sense of security would be seriously eroded.  In this way, security itself is the essential meaning of any dream that connects to losing teeth.  The context of the dream, what I call the Dreaming Lens, can offer you insight to deepen this generalized, universal interpretation.  Please feel free to share with me your dreams of losing your teeth and together, we’ll try to build back a sense of feeling secure: loved, protected and nourished!

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What do snakes mean in dreams?

Yesterday, I blogged about what spiders mean in dreams.  I was inspired by my appearance on a radio show where the theme of the conversation was focused on scary dream images and their meaning.  As is often the case, I found myself explaining that when we project our fears about an image onto the meaning we make of it, we are missing the value of what our unconscious is trying to tell us.  By “removing the yuck,” as it was so charmingly put on the air, and examining the essence of the symbol in question, a more satisfying interpretation emerges.

I use the image of snakes in dreams frequently to illustrate this point very clearly.  So once again, borrowing from the pages of Dream Sight (coming from Llewellyn Press in February 2011) I include the following selections.  The first is from the first half of the book from a section where I explain this very concept using snakes as an example, followed by the actual dictionary term of Snake as it appears within the pages of my book.  I hope it is of value.

To illustrate this principle more clearly, let us use another example utilizing two people having essentially the same dream.  The primary image is that of a snake.  Dreamer number one is terrified of snakes, while Dreamer number two finds them interesting and even a bit erotic.  While hiking down a path alone somewhere in nature, each dreamer comes upon a large snake in the middle of the path.  Encountering the snake stops their respective hikes and each dreamer regards the snake from a safe distance before waking up.

The fact that snakes shed their skins–which is symbolic for discarding the old to make room for the new in one fell swoop–makes change and transformation the Universal Landscape for snake.  In addition, many varieties of snakes are capable of killing and death is always symbolically linked with rebirth, which is the ultimate of transformations.  Even the fact that their long, straight shape can be formed into a circle is symbolically suggestive of the cycles of change that are so much a part of life.

The Dreaming Lens in this dream is the same for both dreamers–the presence of the snake in the middle of their path has halted their progress.  Now the meaning of the dream is expanded:  this is a dream about some path in life that each dreamer is on.  Since they are alone, we can assume the dream is reflecting their own private journey as opposed to their public life.  Some element of change or transformation is occurring in their lives as represented by the snake appearing on their respective paths.  This apparent obstacle is causing them to stop and consider what direction to take and what to do next.

Now we come to the Personal Focus, which is going to be very different for our dreamers, therefore resulting in a different final interpretation for each.  Dreamer number one is afraid of snakes and therefore whatever change in life this dream is expressing is bringing up some level of fear.  Dreamer number two is also facing a shift in life, but one that is intriguing and inviting by virtue of having a Personal Focus of snakes as an object of fascination.  Without using the process of Dream Sight, both dreamers would be stuck and confused with having the dream mean something about how they feel about snakes rather than coming to a full understanding of the dream representing a change or transformation that their unconscious minds are asking them to explore.
Snake

Universal Landscape:  Change or transition; healing; death and rebirth.

Dreaming Lens:  What kind of snake is appearing in your dream?  Is it poisonous, dangerous or innocuous?  What was your fear level or lack thereof?  Did the snake have human qualities or abilities?  Does it have a message?
 
Personal Focus:  Snakes can inspire great and varied personal emotions, and therefore can ultimately connect to very different shades of meaning based on your Personal Focus.  Because of this continuum of response from fear and loathing to fascination and sensual stirrings, they need to be considered carefully when they appear in a dream.

First and foremost, snakes represent change and transformation.  This connects to the fact that they shed their skins in their growth process and that many of them are capable of causing fatality to their predators, implying the symbolic rebirth that follows any death experience.  There is a healing element of this, as many snake venoms can also be used as curatives.  This may connect to the two snakes that appear on the physician’s caduceus, representing the challenge to life and the response of the healer to match it.

In the Judeo-Christian tradition, the snake bears the responsibility for tempting Adam and Eve.  As such, a snake can represent a confrontation with a change in your value system.  It is important to remember that their yielding introduced the human race to the knowledge of mortality and the birth of consciousness.  A serpent in your dream may actually represent a major shift in your awareness that may bring about the death of an old paradigm that brings you into a whole new world.

In Eastern cultures, the awakening of spiritual power is often referred to as a snake.  Known as the Kundalini, it is experienced as an incredible energy which undulates up the spine.  Stimulating this can induce a tremendous healing force which contains the ability to purify the nervous and glandular systems.  The practice of yoga is designed to awaken the snake that lives dormant at the base of the spine.  As a dream symbol, a snake could represent the potential for power and energy if properly channeled.

If a snake appears on a particular part of your body (such as choking you) you might want to make an association between that body part/energy and what in your life needs to be transformed.  How you feel about the presence of actions of the snake reveal your deeper emotional responses to the change that is occurring.

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Why do I dream of spiders?

Why do I dream of spiders?

Spiders seem to be up for me.  I was having breakfast with a colleague the other day and our waiter asked what we did.  When he found out I was a dream interpreter, he almost fell down.  He excitedly told me he had just had a disturbing dream and wondered to himself, “what might a dream about spiders mean?”  Two days later, I was doing a radio show and what do you think was the very first question I was asked?  What do spiders in a dream mean?  So, in the spirit of synchronicity, here is an excerpt from my upcoming dictionary, Dream Sight (Llewellyn Press; February 2011) on spiders.

Spider/Spider-web

Universal Landscape:  Powerful feminine energy.  Patience.

Dreaming Lens:  Were you encountering a spider or spider webbing?  Was it frightening?  Were you in danger?  Did you kill the spider?  Did you want to?  Did the spider want to harm you?  Was the overall scene macabre or more magical?

Personal Focus:  Spiders are a powerful image of the feminine principle, which relates to creativity and receptivity.  Spiders embody this by virtue of the creative act of making a web and the patience involved in awaiting their prey.  Many, if not most people, have an aversion to them which makes them a creature of the shadow.

Spiders can be found everywhere, which is one of the reasons why they feature prominently as a common dream image.  While not all are venomous, the most widely known spider is the Black Widow, famous for mating with and then killing her male counterpart.  This is the feminine principle in its most ferocious expression.

A spider’s webbing is a miraculous feat of engineering and unparalleled beauty.  Its purpose is two-fold.  On the side of nurturing, it is a home.  However, it is also a weapon of prey–a trap set to capture, kill and eat.  Spiders also connect to the numerological expression of abundance because of their eight legs (see Numbers).  Any or all of these themes may be being expressed in a dream that features this image.

A spider web may point to creative ideas that are currently being spun.  This also indicates that a period of waiting must follow in order for success to be achieved.  A spider bite may indicate that an infusion of the feminine principle may be in order for your current dealings to succeed.  The irritation, illness or death that is possible with a spider bite indicates the level of sacrifice that will be required of you on an emotional level at this time.

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Mom is dead.

Here’s how I work with my own dreams.  Because I’ve done this for so long, my unconscious is usually very clear with me about what imagery to examine upon waking.  Often I am not moved to consider anything and I just appreciate that the human experience includes this magnificent opportunity to fly around the world of the infinite.  Then, usually about once a week, I move into wakefulness with a full dream, single image or particular scenario that calls to me.  I remember it vividly and it sticks in my consciousness like a small remnant of corn-on-the-cob that screams to be flossed out from between my teeth.

So last night was one of those nights where I remembered so many dreams, that when I woke up, there didn’t seem to be anything particular to land on.  It felt like I could remember every single dream I had with a clear evenness that didn’t push anything up to the surface to demand my attention.  However, I didn’t dismiss them entirely and as I took up the task of morning exercise, I allowed myself to ruminate on them and see what came up.

But rumination wasn’t enough.  I needed to turn to the very next tool for interpretation in the dreamer’s arsenal; calling forth more connection to the unconscious by sharing the dream with someone else.  Fortunately, I had a close friend nearby to do this with.  And what this looks like is less like a conversation and more of a recitation.  By telling my friend some of the dream images that were rolling around my waking consciousness, I was grounding the experience into the present and not allowing them to recede into the ethers as I stepped fully into my day.

A theme definitely emerged and it turned out to be very revealing.  The strongest image that percolated in my memory was that my mother had died in one of the dreams.  Dream-death is always about some measure of transformation; some aspect of the personality dies so that another, more advanced aspect can be born.  Since most human pain can be easily divided into Mother-Wound and Father-Wound, I wondered if there was anything in the dream that might connect to either my father directly, or to something that resonated with the masculine principle in general.

I found that image in the memory from one of my dreams of being in a tearful embrace with a man.  I recall very little about this image except that there was great love and acceptance and the unknown male figure in my dream was professing an enormous amount of relief at finally being able to accept the love he had for me and the ability to return that love to me in the form of this embrace.  So the father stuff was present too, but by now I sensed that the real juice lay in what had occurred with my mother.

That she had died in the dream was not enough.  I need another image to round out the experience and make some sense of it.  Halfway through my stationery bike ride, I had another flash of a dream that took place earlier in the night, when my mother was still alive, but suffering from some malady that was likely to (and indeed, later did) kill her.  She wrote out a letter to me expressing her love and acceptance of the man I turned out to be (notice that this is the same theme as with the embrace with the man).  However, in the note she referred to me as Mr. Michael Lennox.
Hmmm.  Mister.  That’s interesting, I thought.  Instead of Mike (as she usually calls me) she is using the very formal Mister, which is, essentially, inaccurate because the appropriate formal address for me is DOCTOR Michael Lennox.  I wasn’t annoyed by this in the dream, but I was hyper aware of this perceived slight.

So, here is a little about my own personal wounds.  If I were to break it down to its simplest expression, the wounds around my father are that I never felt truly loved by him.  With regard to my mother, it’s all about feeling a desperate need to prove myself to her.  In fact, it is conceivable to say that the fact that I got a doctorate in the first place is connected to that desire.

In order to get a bit deeper, I turned to one of the tried and true techniques of dream work; voice dialogue automatic handwriting.  This involves sitting down with a piece of paper and a pen, getting still and quiet and asking your unconscious to speak with you.  To do this, you must have a particular character aspect from a dream in mind with whom you wish to connect.  In this case it is my mother.  This is not my actual mother who is alive and well and living in New Jersey, but the mother-inside-my-psyche who lives in my dreams and happened to have died there last night.  You use your dominant hand to write out the questions, then switch the pen to your non-dominant hand and see what comes.  You just write without thinking.  You may just be amazed at what happens.  Here’s what came for me this morning.

Me: Ma, why did you call me Mr. instead of Dr.

Mom: Because I forgot.

Me: But Ma, I want you to be proud of me.

Mom: Oh my god, Mike, I am SO proud of you.

My mother has very severe Attention Deficit Disorder.  As such, I grew up with her having a lot of difficulty ever really focusing on me in a way that made me feel seen and validated.  She is also extremely forgetful; another quality that, as a child, left me wanting.  This wound in me is deep and has been exacerbated throughout my life in so many ways that are profound.  In fact, it is safe to say that I have created a life with a measure of visibility in it to help compensate for this wound.  Now my mother is a loving person and I’m no longer seven years old.  One of the things about this time in my life as I continue to expand my work in a more and more public way is to take on the role of witnessing my own life and seeking less and less the validation of others.

Now to put these dreams into the context of my life, it is important to note that I have spent the last three days in retreat in the place that I go to in order to get away from my day to day life and reconnect to myself and recharge my spiritual batteries.  This morning I am heading back into town, so last night would naturally reflect the integration that has been going on over this weekend during which some fairly powerful decisions were made and life changes put into place.  As these changes connect to expanding my life and my work, the dying of my mother in my dreams is likely connected to me allowing the part of me that desperately needs to be validated from the outside to be released on a deep level.

If there is a message here it is this:  There is very little separation between the dream world and the waking world if you let it.  The satisfaction of letting your dreams speak to you is potentially enormous and for me at least, when I allow this conversation between my conscious and my unconscious mind to flow with grace and ease, I find my waking life much more interesting and inviting; I am able to face the work I have chosen to do with discipline, curiosity and most importantly, enthusiasm.

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My nephew dreamed of exploring a mansion

My nephew Zachary is about to go off to college this fall.  Both he and his sister Sarah have been sharing their dreams with me since they were little.  This one seemed worth sharing with you all because it illustrates one of the primary tenets of dream symbolism (houses as self).  In addition, the timing of the dream and the context of some of the details in it connect so obviously with the journey of a young man leaving home and facing the college experience, it is a good example of how exploring a dream can reveal what the unconscious wants you to know.

There are so many rich symbols in this dream worth exploring.  For the sake of this article however, I am going to limit my interpretation to just one theme – otherwise it would be the length of a short term paper!  Here is his email to me:

Hey Uncle Mike,

I had a question about a [possibly reoccurring] dream. We have a family friend who is a doctor and lives a few towns away.  They live on some 14+ acres with a house that is nice but not excessive in size or decoration.

I remember having a dream a couple months back about a house (more like a mansion) that would be found in a place like Tuxedo Park (wealthy town in New York State). In the dream the house belongs to this family friend. Throughout this dream, I remember exploring and finding different hidden staircases and such around the house.  I only remember a few places in this house. One is a huge library (in which I’m never on the ground floor, I’m on some kind of balcony that runs the perimeter of the room with no staircase to the ground floor). One is an outside corner of the house (grey/tan stone, green grass and old windows: think old stone mansion). And the last is a large basement that looks like it could be on the back end of a cruise ship. Huge open space and a pool table are what come to mind right now (blue, green, gold, chrome and a bit of blue are the colors I remember. I remember running around this house a finding staircases going from the basement to the library or other places.

Last night I had a different version of this dream I guess. Same library same house but the basement was different. The basement was 2 floors instead of 1 and was completely empty. The walls were exposed cinderblock and the floors were empty. There was paint on the floor at the base of the walls but it wasn’t spilled. It looked like someone had tried to paint the floors with a paint roller but only did the edges of the room in like random strokes. This time I used the main staircase to get into the basement (but I still do not know how I got to those stairs). When I reached the lower level of the basement I noticed that there was water entering the basement. It wasn’t rising fast or dangerously but I know I thought it was because I remember feeling frightened and started heading for the staircase that led to the library. Next thing I know I’m in the library.

I know that in both of these dreams I was not exploring alone. I never saw who I was with but I knew someone or multiple people were with me. I did see other people in the dream though I can’t remember who I saw.

I’m not exactly sure what to make of this but I figured it would be worth asking you.

Please let me know what you think,

Zac

Houses in dreams connect to our sense of self.  This idea of being in a mansion in your dreams is a common experience and relates to the way in which our sense of who we are gets bigger and bigger as we move through life.  Exploring a mansion in your dream life is a sure sign that your sense of self is expanding in a very positive way and is a natural place for you to be in this year of your life where you put the chapter of childhood behind you and go off into the beginning of your life as an adult.

Libraries are filled with books and connect to the availability of knowledge and information.  I am fairly certain that this image is coming up for you because of the imminent change in your life that going to college represents; you are about to embark upon a journey where the symbolic library of your inner self will need to be accessible and utilizable.  Being stuck on the second floor with no apparent access to the rest of the house could indicate some fears around how difficult it might be to connect to your intellectual prowess and still manage to stay grounded in the rest of you.

The basement connects to what is down below the consciousness of our psyche.  Not so deep that you can’t access it, but below the surface of your day to day experience of yourself.  In the first dream, it is interesting to me that the basement has a lot of images that represent leisure time activities – a pool table, a cruise ship.  In the second, more recent dream (which I don’t need to point out is coming at a point when you are just weeks away from going to college) the basement reflects a level of being unfinished and sloppily attended to.  Additionally, it goes down to a deeper level of your consciousness (2 floors instead of 1).  The closer you get to the responsibilities to come, the more your unconscious is expressing the fears of not being quite ready.  The slow rising water might be the emotional expression of these fears; not overwhelming, but clearly there.  This is a good thing and is, in fact, necessary for you to face what is on its way to you with courage and fortitude.

You are not alone in the dream.  And you are not alone in your life.  Both as a symbolic expression of the aspects of yourself that you have to call upon (your innate intelligence, your desire to please, your willingness to push through difficult circumstances) and as the people in your life that will be there to support you that you haven’t even met yet – the new friends you will meet at school.

As you have more dreams like this (and I think you will likely have more) use them to understand how your journey is evolving.

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I dreamed of pulling shards of glass out of my tongue.

I received a text this morning from a friend:

“I had a dream of broken glass in my mouth and pulling large shards out of my tongue.  PS my dad just had massive stroke.”

It occurred to me that this short snippet of a dream and the accompanying information presented a good opportunity to illustrate two themes in dream work.

The first is the notion of association.  Whether the images in this dream connect in any obvious way to the relationship between the dreamer and his father, we can be absolutely certain that there is one.  How do we know this?  Well, the dreamer has told us so.  By including this piece of information in his text, the interpretation has already begun.  And whatever meaning we derive from examining the dream, we absolutely must connect it to issues that may exist between father and son at this time.

The second point I can illustrate is the way in which a symbol itself can be broken down to yield some interesting results.  In this dream, it is glass that intrigues me.  While most people might gloss over this image and go right to the juicy details of the shards of glass stuck in the dreamer’s tongue, I suspect that if we look at glass itself for a moment, we will get a distinction worthy of the effort it will take to get it.

Looking for the universal meaning is best done by examining the use or essence of the thing itself.  Since we don’t know what this particular glass was used for (it’s now in shards) let’s consider its essence.  Glass is a fine material that is made by heating sand to very high temperatures, changing the molecular structure into the transparent, brittle substance we are familiar with.  When it is broken, the sharp edges can be very dangerous indeed.

So now to the dream itself.  Any obstruction to the mouth in a dream is going to connect to issues of communication.  This dreamer is expressing dangerous obstacles associated with communication, things either said or unsaid.  My inclination is to go with unsaid and here’s why:  Sand is made up of small particles of rock.  Rocks are symbolically associated with memory; they contain the blueprints of the past through the study of geology.  Sand can be made into glass under the pressure of extreme heat.  It is possible that the shards of glass causing problems today may be the result of old ideas, heated up over a long period of time, transformed into glass.  And since we know his relationship with his father is key, it is safe to say that his exploration of what this dream is representing should be concentrated on those things that have been left unsaid that may be causing pain in the present.

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Do dreams connect to world events?

Our individual experiences in life are always connected to what is happening globally, although it is not always easy to identify how this is happening.  Dreams are one of the ways that we connect to the collective experience.  In fact, the basic foundation of modern dream work is predicated upon the existence of what Jung termed the Collective Unconscious – the realm of thought that is experienced by all human beings in the same way.

Here is a dream that illustrates this concept so well, I wanted to share it.  A client of mine presented a dream in which she was suffering from a severe headache.  In order to have some relief, she rinsed her head with cool water and found that there was black dye in her hair.  She came upon a woman and asked for some help in cleaning off the dye, but the woman replied that she couldn’t get the equipment working properly and would be unable to wash her hair at this time.

On the personal level, this dream is reflecting the dreamer’s current struggles with health issues and depression.  The headache could represent her ongoing negative thoughts, with the black hair dye connecting to the outward expression of these negative thoughts.  In examining this dream, we decided that asking the woman for help was indicative of her desire to turn toward the feminine principle for relief – holistic healing and the mind-body connection as opposed to relying strictly on Western medicine.  The fact that the equipment was not operable was a clear indication that the moment for relief was not yet at hand, which was certainly accurate in terms of her waking-life condition.

The personal dream work satisfied us both and helped my client reach a sense of surrender to her plight that day.  This was no easy task as her level of discomfort was great, but the dream did it’s work and she felt shifted as a result of our conversation. 

However, while we were working on the dream, I was struck by what to me was a very obvious connection between the timing of this dream and a world event that had happened the day before the dream appeared.  As this is one of my most intuitive clients, I didn’t have to wonder whether I should broach the subject; she did it for me and suggested that we look at how her current experience might also be reflecting things going on in the collective.  We had only to turn to news of current events to make the connection.

She had this dream the night after BP installed the cap on the damaged well in the Gulf of Mexico.  There was not yet enough information to know whether this fix was going to work and the measure of efficacy was going to connect directly to how much pressure was going to be exerted on the integrity of the well.  The cap on the well could be symbolically connected to the head.  The pressure buildup beneath the cap could certainly cause a symbolic headache.  The black dye was such an overt symbolism of the impact of spilled oil, we both found the image a bit humorous.  The fact that the equipment was not yet ready to clean off this black dye (spilled oil) was certainly applicable to the hope that the cap would work coupled with the knowledge that the impact of the oil would take a long time to clean up.  There was no doubt for us both; the dream was reflecting both her personal journey and what was happening in the world at that very moment.

Now, not every dream is going to exhibit this connection quite so directly.  However, I share it with you to encourage a more enthusiastic exploration of the Collective Unconscious and how it might be operating in your dream life every day!

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Lysol, nudity and little people: What does my dream mean?

Every once in a while, a friend will call or email me a dream they’ve had.  Sometimes it’s because the dream feels disturbing or important and they want to gain more insight and self awareness by considering it.  And sometimes, it’s just because it’s weird and fun.  This is one of those.

Brent shared this dream: I was assaulted naked by a group of people armed with Lysol cans, covered from head to toe in Lysol then ran all over desperately trying to find someone to wash me off to no avail, as my skin become redder and more irritated. Some how I thought that the midget actor Verne Troyer was the only one who could save me..

And here is how I responded:  Lysol represents the (false) need to protect us from microorganisms by killing them off with poison. It was a product born out of the fear instilled in the zeitgeist when science discovered pathogens that caused disease. Most bacterial and other microorganisms are important parts of our interactive living exchange, but corporate America would say that 1) you are in danger and 2) we can protect you from that danger and 3) Oh, did we mention that our protection is poisonous???

The group represent an old thought paradigm based on fear that there is something wrong with you, especially visible when you are vulnerably exposed (e.g. naked).  Think of the religious background you come from and other “group mentalities” that would view you as diseased or dangerous and in need of cleansing.

You are naked, so you are not only vulnerable, but exposed (loosely connecting the imagery to sexuality and certainly to sensuality). So this judgmental “group” that lives inside you is the fearful notion that you must be thoroughly cleansed so that they will be protected from hidden, invisible dangers that are EVERYWHERE (from head to toe) and sure to be contagious.

Your current sensibility understands that this approach is actually dangerous and irritating, but the damage is already done. The only one who could save you now is Verne – he represents that part of you that is 1) small, but ultimately powerful (like a spiritual truth) and 2) different from the status quo (spiritual thoughts that may separate you from others in a group-think sort of way, but that actually know the truth in ways that group- or race-consciousness does not) and 3) willing to take great risks despite his perceived limitations.

Insight and self awareness is available in all our dreams – even when we think they’re just weird and fun.

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Does this dream make me look fat?

“What does my dream mean” and “Does this dream mean anything?” are the questions I am frequently asked.  Here is an example from my own life that describes how a dream that seems at first to be meaningless is actually helping me have a better experience in life.

As I’ve concentrated on my writing and other work, I’ve neglected my body a bit.  I’m still very healthy and in relatively good shape, but part of my spiritual practice definitely connects with the care of my physicality both with regard to nutrition and exercise.  This is the last area of true resistance in my life right now; it has been very difficult for me to find a level of discipline in any kind of a daily exercise routine in the past two years.

That has just begun to change of late and I have been incorporating rigorous exercise back into my life for the past week.  Those first few weeks are both the most difficult and the most crucial.  As of the moment that I’m writing this, I still seem to be motivated, having gone to the gym this morning.  I look to my dreams to tell me whether I am fully ready to step into this commitment, or if I’m just kidding myself and that another period of sloth is just around the corner.

In asking my dreams to give me some clarity on this issue, I awoke this morning a little confused.  I could not remember any specific dream imagery, but I was filled with a rather strange notion that was definitely a residual from wherever I had spent my nocturnal wanderings.  And what I woke up with was this overwhelming need to make sure I was getting enough potassium.

The sense of this was very, very specific.  I needed potassium.  Now, my diet is pretty good; well balanced and generally healthy.  I am certainly getting enough potassium.  So what could this mean on a symbolic level?  I turned to Wikipedia for some help and looked up potassium.

It turns out that potassium is very connected to brain cells communicating with each other, fluid balance in the cells themselves and the proper working of muscle cells and their ability to contract and release effectively.  If this doesn’t connect to exercise, I’ll eat my hat.  Or my banana.  Which brings me to another post-dream experience.

It is a known fact that jump-starting your metabolism by ingesting some sort of food as soon as you wake up is one of the best ways to tell your body to burn calories.  I generally have a bad habit of not eating for several hours into my day, which really limits achieving my weight loss goals.  When I glanced at the contents of my refrigerator while getting the creamer for my morning coffee, I saw that last banana sitting on the shelf.  I thought, “banana.”  Then, “potassium.”  Then I put it together that if I ate the banana and then went to the gym, I’d not only be getting the exercise I need, but my body would be all the more prepared to work at its most effective.

Soon, I’ll have the body of my dreams!

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Why do I always dream my husband is cheating on me?

Why do I always dream my husband is cheating on me?  It is one of the most frequently asked questions and is usually accompanied by a bit of anxiety on the behalf of the one asking.  And it’s not just the husbands out there; plenty of wives are cheating in dream land as well.

Having an affair is the ultimate betrayal and the cause of great fear amongst all sorts of couples.  It is natural to have some measure of insecurity within a relationship and the idea that your partner might step out on you is this fear taken to its furthest manifestation.  Your primary relationship may or may not be subject to an actual affair, but in the language of symbolism, this dream has little to do with infidelity and a lot to do with getting your needs met.

Asking for what you need in a relationship is tough work.  Wishing that you partner could read your mind is common – in fact many people expect that their partners can and should be able to know what to do in any given situation and may punish each other when this does not occur.  A dream of cheating may be pointing to a moment in your primary relationship when you may not feel like your needs are being met.

Below is an excerpt from Dream Sight; the term Infidelity/Affair.

Infidelity/Affair:  A circuitous route to meeting needs.  Avoidance.

There is no intimacy need that cannot be met in a primary relationship.  Going outside of a marriage or partnership for sex or affection is a way of meeting a primal need by a roundabout way.  Simultaneously, there is an avoidance of some underlying problem that is not being addressed.  Therefore this image represents both a circuitous route to connection and avoidance of confrontation.

If you discover an infidelity in a dream, you may want to consider areas in your life where you are avoiding taking care of your self.  If you are engaged in an affair, you might need to examine your life circumstances for signs of being manipulative or indirect in getting your needs met.  As getting caught is always reflective of an unconscious desire to effect a change, being discovered as being unfaithful could indicate a desire to shift some area of your life.

Always be willing to look at issues of responsibility when this dream image appears: where in your life are you not allowing yourself to be accountable for your actions?  If the dream involves details of constructing an affair, you may want to examine how genuine you are being in terms of expressing and manifesting your desires in life, both relationally and otherwise.  Where in your life are you being authentic?  How might you be betraying your own needs?

It is safe to assume that this image in a dream indicates a theme of intimacy issues in your waking life, no matter what the marital state of the dreamer.  This may have literal implications if you are actually involved in an affair or believe your partner to be.

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