Why do I always dream my husband is cheating on me? It is one of the most frequently asked questions and is usually accompanied by a bit of anxiety on the behalf of the one asking. And it’s not just the husbands out there; plenty of wives are cheating in dream land as well.
Having an affair is the ultimate betrayal and the cause of great fear amongst all sorts of couples. It is natural to have some measure of insecurity within a relationship and the idea that your partner might step out on you is this fear taken to its furthest manifestation. Your primary relationship may or may not be subject to an actual affair, but in the language of symbolism, this dream has little to do with infidelity and a lot to do with getting your needs met.
Asking for what you need in a relationship is tough work. Wishing that you partner could read your mind is common – in fact many people expect that their partners can and should be able to know what to do in any given situation and may punish each other when this does not occur. A dream of cheating may be pointing to a moment in your primary relationship when you may not feel like your needs are being met.
Below is an excerpt from Dream Sight; the term Infidelity/Affair.
Infidelity/Affair: A circuitous route to meeting needs. Avoidance.
There is no intimacy need that cannot be met in a primary relationship. Going outside of a marriage or partnership for sex or affection is a way of meeting a primal need by a roundabout way. Simultaneously, there is an avoidance of some underlying problem that is not being addressed. Therefore this image represents both a circuitous route to connection and avoidance of confrontation.
If you discover an infidelity in a dream, you may want to consider areas in your life where you are avoiding taking care of your self. If you are engaged in an affair, you might need to examine your life circumstances for signs of being manipulative or indirect in getting your needs met. As getting caught is always reflective of an unconscious desire to effect a change, being discovered as being unfaithful could indicate a desire to shift some area of your life.
Always be willing to look at issues of responsibility when this dream image appears: where in your life are you not allowing yourself to be accountable for your actions? If the dream involves details of constructing an affair, you may want to examine how genuine you are being in terms of expressing and manifesting your desires in life, both relationally and otherwise. Where in your life are you being authentic? How might you be betraying your own needs?
It is safe to assume that this image in a dream indicates a theme of intimacy issues in your waking life, no matter what the marital state of the dreamer. This may have literal implications if you are actually involved in an affair or believe your partner to be.