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Dreaming of famous people: What do celebrities mean in dreams?

I saw this post from a facebook friend:

“Now WHY did I dream about naked dancers from the 70s having a Christmas party in a parking lot outside in zero degrees??? And why was Janet Jackson wearing pink mascara in my dream! Errrr yeah! She was at the party too! Damn, night nurse and brandy hot toddies…. Wow!”

And while I’m not going to venture an interpretation of this particular celebrity in this particular dreamer’s psyche – it inspired me to share the term Celebrity from my upcoming book Dream Sight: A Dictionary and Guide to Interpreting Any Dream coming in February.

Celebrities

Universal Landscape: Archetypal Character Aspect; heightened expressions of human traits or qualities.

Dreaming Lens:  Were you with a celebrity intimately or was it a celebrity sighting?  Did you know each other?  What was the connection between you?  Were there other people around?  Did you have sex?  Were you comfortable with the connection that you had?  Did you want more?  Did you want less?

Personal Focus:  Celebrities are the gods and goddesses of modern life and represent archetypal human qualities with which we all identify.  The essence of a particular celebrity’s image can be distilled into a character aspect by the ways in which we perceive them.  Millions of people hold the same projected image of celebrities.  The power of all that magnified perception endows them with superhuman status and removes any sense of the person underneath the persona.

Celebrities show up in our dreams when the stakes are a little higher in terms of what we’re dreaming about.  By providing a more powerful image, the unconscious is telling you to pay more attention.  Approach the interpretation the same way you would anyone in your dreams.  When considering the qualities of the person you are dreaming about, remember to look at everything about them and take into account how you perceive them, including if you are a fan or not or whether they are currently in or out of public favor.  When interpreting a celebrity from a dream, first consider what they embody on a universal level.  Then, and only then, add your personal feelings about them.  When you have done this, you will be clear about what character aspect of yourself you are dreaming of.

In the way that people in our dreams represent character aspects of ourselves, celebrities represent character aspects of the global consciousness as reflected by the idea of archetypes.  Celebrities are our modern-day gods and goddesses.  Dreaming about one of these elite individuals represents a need to explore the qualities they embody as a character aspect, but in a much more powerful way.  In a process identical to working with a character aspect of someone at the pedestrian level, a celebrity’s fame elevates the significance of the meaning you assign to them.  Your unconscious is using the notoriety associated with their public visibility to get your attention.  It is, in effect, providing you with an image that has a chance of making the dream memorable upon waking so that you might more readily take notice of the guidance available to you in the dream.

Sexual dreams with celebrities are common.  Most dreamers assume this is so because of how attractive most of them are.  Additionally, what they do puts them in a position to carry the sexual fantasies of their public.  However, in dream work, sexual dreams with celebrities are common because the drive to integrate archetypal energy is integral to the evolution of our souls.  When the unconscious is encouraging you to own the more powerful parts of your psychic makeup, there is no better way for it to get your attention than through highly charged, sexual imagery.

It is natural for us to need larger-than-life representations of the human experience to motivate us through the various challenges we face managing the stressors and disappointments that are a part of life’s journey.  Our culture’s fascination with the life of celebrities provides us with hope that our own lives have the potential for excitement and glamour, even if this is just a fantasy.  In fact, such fantasies can function as survival mechanisms for many people.

Discovering what a dream involving a celebrity might be telling you is the same as with any character aspect.  Since we are in the realm of archetypal energy when dealing with celebrities, the quality that your dream is inviting you to explore may be very obvious.  A sports figure may be asking you to examine your willingness to play the game of life with more confidence whereas a pop singer may be suggesting that more self-expression is crying out for release.  If you get stuck on how to interpret the meaning of a celebrity’s presence, the technique of using three adjectives to describe them works just as well with the famous as with the ordinary.

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What do stairs mean in dreams?

Two nights ago, I have some very vivid dreams.  The most prominent image that has stayed with me in the days since is of climbing a stairway.  This particular set of stairs had a peculiar attribute; they got more and more narrow as I climbed.  The destination, while unknown to me, was someplace I very much wanted to get to and I had the sense that the landscape above me was very special indeed and worth whatever challenges there might be in reaching it.

When I say the staircase got more narrow – I mean VERY narrow.  Like “I’m not sure I can squeeze myself through that space” narrow.  The kind of narrow that sparked my claustrophobia.  I pressed on and began to slip myself into the limited space that was before me and I woke before I managed to get through and to the other side.  I was no longer aware of where I was coming from and I lost all sight of where I was going.  All I knew was that I had to get through this difficult transition and that was what was getting all of my attention.

This image has lingered long after the dream because I think it is very emblematic of exactly where I am in my life.  The long journey up from the past has led to a moment of intense growing pains as I transition from what it is to be writing my first book and what it is to have my first book published and arrive at the next floor, ready to face the next chapter and all that it will entail.

In this spirit, I share the term Stairs from my upcoming book Dream Sight: A Dictionary and Guide to Interpreting Any Dream, available on February 8, 2011.

Stairs

Universal Landscape:  Transitions in life, often directly connected to personal growth or assessment.

Dreaming Lens:  Were you climbing the stairs?  Were you ascending or descending?  Where were the stairs leading to and from?  How many steps were there?  What step were you on?  What shape were they in?  Were they steep?  Were they dangerous?  Did you slip or fall?

Personal Focus:  Stairs represent transition, change and personal growth.  When we use them, we make direct contact with our feet.  This makes them symbolic of change on a very specific, personal level.  Climbing up stairs should be interpreted as ascending to higher levels of consciousness.  Going down stairs connects to revisiting places you have already been or moving into lower levels of thought, such as anger and envy, or facing your own emotional development by revisiting old issues.

Where the stairs are is important to consider.  A stairway in a home is about personal transitions, whereas stairs in public environments reveal issues around how we operate out in the world, in full view of others.  There may be literal elements of this image in a dream as a dream that takes place on a stairway at your workplace will likely connect to issues that are work-related.  A stairway in a public park may reveal shifts that involve issues of relaxation and leisure.  Use the Dreaming Lens to focus your interpretation.

Your actual experience of climbing the stairs is the key to working with this symbol.  A treacherous experience may reveal fears attached to issues you are currently facing.  Running up and down stairs with ease may point to an ability to operate at different levels with grace if your life is calling you to do so.  Fear of where the stairs may lead correlate to investigations that lay ahead of you where the outcome is not clear.  The number of stairs, if known, can be considered using numerology (see Numbers).  Escalators indicate more ease in the transition, but must also be looked at in terms of the potential to gloss over the change that is occurring.  Remember that going down is as important as going up in life.  We must often revisit where we have been below before we can move upward effectively.  Eventually, we must be able to easily exist on many levels at once.

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Tis’ The Season – Why Am I Dreaming Of Santa Claus?

It’s that time of year again and everywhere you turn, you can’t help but bump into Christmas.  In that spirit, I share with you the term Santa Claus from my upcoming book, Dream Sight: A Dictionary and Guide To Interpreting Any Dream, coming from Llewellyn Press February 8th, 2001.

 Santa Claus

 Universal Landscape:  Innocent belief in the magic power of love.

 Dreaming Lens:  What was Santa Claus doing in your dream?  Were you dressed as Santa?  Was the Santa Claus the real thing or a man in a costume?  Was the dream pleasant or punitive?  Were there presents involved?  Was it Christmas?

Personal Focus:  Christmas come with the Winter Solstice, the time when the days are shortest in the Northern Hemisphere.  During this darkest time of the year, we reminisce about the bounty of sunshine with a tree that is decorated with the symbolic fruits of spring.  Santa Claus is the icon at the foundation of this mythology.  He represents the magical power of love to transcend all darkness.  This power is associated with the innocence of childhood, for once the belief in it is abandoned, it can be very difficult for people to fully believe in magic again.

There are two developments around the idea of Santa Claus in modern times that are worth mentioning.  Somewhere along the line, parents began to use the promise of what Santa might bring to a child in order to manipulate them toward good behavior.  If a child is good, they receive presents.  If bad, they get a lump of coal.  To solidify this notion, he was bestowed with the power to see what was occurring during the year as a sort of moral compass.  This was popularized by the famous lyric, “he sees you when you’re sleeping, he knows when you’re awake, he knows if you’ve been bad or good, so be good for goodness sake.”

 While on the surface this is a charming notion, Santa’s voyeurism is a falsehood, so the spirit behind instilling this sort of fear into children is manipulative and judgmental.  Look to see where in your life you may be overly concerned with whether you’ve been bad or good and what the consequences might be.  Conversely, the appearance of Santa in a dream could indicate a desire to exert control over someone else’s behavior (or to be feeling controlled by another) in a way that is indirect or passive aggressive.

 If your Santa Claus is in any way dark or menacing, look to where your consciousness may be reflecting the misuse of love or magic.  When an archetypal character aspect is reflecting shadow material, they might be engaged in behavior that is contrary to what is expected of them.  Are you manipulating some situation to get what you want by being over-generous or giving too much?  Sometimes the impulse to be generous comes with a hidden hook of trying to snare what you secretly want in return.

 The concept of the “secret Santa” is a prominent modern day way in which this archetype is fully present.  While an adult knows that there is no Santa Claus, we refresh our workplace spirit by agreeing that not only does Santa exist in our own hearts, but the best way to keep that energy alive and equally experienced by all, the identity of the giver must be kept secret.  In this way, the essence of this energy is that yes, with apologies to Virginia, there really is a Santa Claus; but he exists within the heart of all human beings just waiting for an organic moment to express love through the generosity of giving.

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What does it mean if I’m dreaming of my cell phone?

I spent about three hours last night trying to figure out how to use my new Droid phone from Verizon.  In that time, I managed to miss a call, send a text I didn’t want to send, go to a lot of pages on the internet I had no intention of visiting and finally find a ring town that didn’t make the fillings in my back teeth vibrate uncomfortable.  This inspired me to share the term “Cell Phone” from my upcoming book, Dream Sight: A Dictionary and Guide to Interpreting Any Dream from Llewellyn Worldwide Press which will be released on February 8, 2011.
Cell Phone

Universal Landscape:  Instant connection and communication of thought.

Dreaming Lens:  Were you using your phone?  Was someone else using a cell phone?  Did you have a clear connection, or was there interference?  Did you loose your cell phone?  Did the cell phone feel like a helpful tool or a burdensome necessity?  Was the cell phone user being responsible?
 
Personal Focus:  In a matter of a few decades, the relatively new phenomenon of cell phones have become so commonplace as to be taken for granted in the Western world.  They provide an instant connection from one person to another no matter where either party is located.  On the mundane level, they represent the accelerating speed of the world in which we live.  Symbolically, they embody the concept what might be called a supra-conscious: the connection between human beings across the planet through technology that provides the instantaneous exchange of ideas almost at the speed of thought.

When considering the symbolic meaning of this particular device, one can not overlook the limitations that are currently part of the experience of using them.  Static interference, abrupt disconnection and accidental dialing are all part of the pitfalls of the current technological development.  If any of these experiences play a role in your dream, your interpretation must include such challenges.  If the object itself holds the meaning of instant connection and higher levels of thought, then a frustrating cell phone interaction symbolizes disconnect instead.  Static could indicate that communication is blocked and you are feeling misunderstood or misunderstanding some life event.  The stigma attached to cell phones as pretentious could represent a move toward or away from conformity.  A cell phone that cannot make a connection could mean your quick fix thinking may be failing you.  A smooth connection could be telling you the answer to your communication problems is right there in your pocket.

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My brother passed away – why aren’t I dreaming of him?

This has been a difficult week for me and my family.  While back in New York City celebrating my mother’s 75th birthday, my brother, sister and I gathered to put together an evening of what would amount to some of her favorite things: the opera (I am a 3rd generation Met subscriber), good food (does anyone NOT like good food?) and having her three children together at the same time.  Since the oldest son lived in Albany and the youngest moved to California, this is not always an easy feat.

Just twenty-four hours after this truly delightful evening of celebration, my brother returned to his Albany home, slid onto his couch to watch some football and went to sleep that night and never work up.  He died two weeks shy of his fiftieth birthday.

I share this with you here because this blog is ultimately about dreams.  Your dreams, my dreams, friends dreams.  And dreams are intensely personal.  There is no way to share about my dreaming experience without bringing to the process my life laid bare.  So here we have it; my brother has died suddenly and unexpectedly and I am craving some dreams that will help me feel connected either to him directly, or at least to the psychic process of grief and loss.

So far – nothing.  Of course, my sleep has not been very deep or satisfying and that may have something to do with it.  And I assure, I will post about any dreams I do wind up having the moment they appear.

Meanwhile, I went to the dream dictionary in my up coming book, Dream Sight and decided to share the term “Siblings” with you here.

Siblings

Universal Landscape:  Character aspects related to waking-life siblings.

Dreaming Lens:  Were you dreaming of your own brother(s) or sister(s)?  Do you have siblings in waking life or were these dream characters?  Were the siblings in your dream related to each other but not to you?

Personal Focus:  All people in dreams relate to some aspect of your own personality.  If you dream of your actual brothers or sisters from your life, the character aspects that they represent as part of your psyche should be investigated in the same manner as any person known to you who appears in a dream.

However, because of the powerful dynamic of family systems, the relationships between siblings will connect to various roles each member of the group often find themselves locked into.  When a sibling appears in a dream, there is a great deal of complexity to explore; from your current relationship, to your childhood history and even how parenting styles impacted each family member.

With careful and unbiased investigation, a sibling dream can offer a penetrating snapshot of where you are in your development as an individual, separate from the limitations of your personal history.

If there is little or no complication associated with the sibling you dream of, treat the interpretation process the same as with any cast member in a dream using the character aspect technique.  If you have no brothers or sisters in waking life, the character aspect of one appearing in your dream will be based primarily on the context in the Dreaming Lens.

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New Moon in Scorpio – my dreams are crazy!!!

Today is the Scorpio New Moon; a very intense moment in the monthly lunar cycle that represents new momentum, new directions, new projects, new ideas and the beautiful way in which life thrusts itself forward into new territory.  In this spirit, I am sharing the term “Moon” from my dream dictionary, Dream Sight.  Make your wish on the Moon tonight for whatever it is that your heart desires!  The intense transformative energy of Scorpio provides just the right amount of magic to create something wild, right out of your dreams!

Moon (Moonlight)

Universal Landscape:  Feminine aspect of the life force energy.

Dreaming Lens:  Was the moon full?  Where in the sky did it appear?  How bright was the moonlight?  Was it Earth’s moon, or a dreamscape night sky?  Were you on the moon? 

Personal Focus:  The moon is a very powerful symbol, just as it is an enormous energetic force in our daily life on Earth.  As the heavenly counterpart to the masculine energy of the sun, the moon represents the feminine aspects of life.  The primary essence of the moon is its constant changeability.  In this regard, the moon symbolizes the ephemeral quality of life and all of the different cycles that human beings experience.  If the moon plays a prominent role in your dream, your interpretation should begin with the notion that change is afoot.

A distinction should be made about how the moon appears in your dream.  If the moon itself is visible to you in the skyscape of your dream, then you are looking at the source of emotional power.  If your dream illuminates the light of the moon itself as it falls upon earth then you are dreaming of the effect or impact of the moon’s magic.  If your dream actually takes place on the moon, then you are literally visiting the seat of your unconscious directly; such a dream should be considered as a very deliberate snapshot of your current experience of how the invisible side of life is impacting the visible.

The emotional side of life is represented by the moon.  This includes all that is changeable and all that responds to the ebb and flow of life.  Because of its unquestionable universality to the human race, the moon in dreams should be considered with very broad strokes of interpretation.  The Dreaming Lens is most important because it is the position, presence or placement of the moon that is the key to its power. The moon also connects to cycles.  It regulates the pulse of the earth with its enormous gravitational influence.  The presence of the moon in a dream may indicate the course of a cycle of an emotional process or transformation.

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What does it mean when I dream of my family?

I’m about to get on a plane to go back to New York to visit my family for my mother’s 75th birthday.  This past two years is the longest period of time in almost a quarter of a century of living on the west coast that I have not been back to visit.  Consciously, I am very excited for the trip and am looking forward to seeing everyone and for the celebration we have planned.  Unconsciously, something far more interesting has been showing up in my dreams.

As families go, I am pretty fortunate.  I was not abused or mistreated.  I was loved and cared for by both my divorced parents.  There was a great deal of chaos, but all in all, the challenges were nothing like some of the tales I have heard over the years.  That said, I am a human being, complete with wounding and pain.  And much of that pain has centered around the role I was cast in as a child that still plays out, despite the fact that I am old enough now to be closer to my death than to my birth.

In the weeks leading up to this trip, I have been dreaming almost nightly of my family of origin.  And while those dreams have run the gamut of scenarios, themes, feelings and constructs, it has been a fascinating thing to observe:  As I get closer to connecting with my family after a long absence, my unconscious is revealing to me my underlying anticipation of the role I play in the dynamic that is my family.  So much has shifted in my life in the past two years and now I get to face head on what my dreams have been preparing me for; the challenge of maintaining my sense of identity in the face of a life-long role that has been mine to play out (often) beyond my ability to avoid or shift.

In that spirit, I am sharing with you the dictionary term Siblings from Dream Sight.

Siblings

Universal Landscape:  Character aspects related to waking-life siblings.

Dreaming Lens:  Were you dreaming of your own brother(s) or sister(s)?  Do you have siblings in waking life or were these dream characters?  Were the siblings in your dream related to each other but not to you?

Personal Focus:  All people in dreams relate to some aspect of your own personality.  If you dream of your actual brothers or sisters from your life, the character aspects that they represent as part of your psyche should be investigated in the same manner as any person known to you who appears in a dream.  However, because of the powerful dynamic of family systems, the relationships between siblings will connect to various roles each member of the group often find themselves locked into.

When a sibling appears in a dream, there is a great deal of complexity to explore; from your current relationship, to your childhood history and even how parenting styles impacted each family member.  With careful and unbiased investigation, a sibling dream can offer a penetrating snapshot of where you are in your development as an individual, separate from the limitations of your personal history.

If there is little or no complication associated with the sibling you dream of, treat the interpretation process the same as with any cast member in a dream using the character aspect technique.  If you have no brothers or sisters in waking life, the character aspect of one appearing in your dream will be based primarily on the context in the Dreaming Lens.

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What do vampires in dreams mean?

In honor of Halloween – another spooky term!

Vampire

Universal Landscape:  Drain of life force.

Dreaming Lens:  Were you the vampire or was the vampire someone else?  Was the vampire a stranger and a figure of mystery?  Was the vampire someone you know from life?  Were you the intended victim?  Were you trying to save someone from a vampire?  Were you bitten?  What was the level of danger, intrigue or sexual stimulation?

Personal Focus:  Vampires are creatures of death that survive by drinking the blood of the living.  Blood represents passion and life force.  A vampire in your dreams represents some aspect of your personality or way of being that has the potential to drain you of your vibrancy and energy.

Because vampires can only move about freely at night, they are in the symbolic realm of the shadow.  This indicates that whatever issues are robbing you of your vitality are hidden from your conscious awareness and must be examined with this in mind.  What we keep in the shadow are parts of ourselves that we can’t accept and have difficulty integrating into our personal identity.  Not doing so can suck the life force out of us until we face what we are resisting.

Often portrayed as sexy or seductive, consider that the vampire may represent a situation or person in your life that seemed alluring at first, but is now exhausting or depleting.  As a character aspect of your personality, there may be some habit, behavior or emotional trait that is literally sucking you dry.  Since vampires cast no reflection in a mirror, this may be a part of you that you may be unable or unwilling to see directly.

We often feel drained by responsibilities and the things we think we should be doing.  You may want to become more aware of those things you are attached to in a negative way.  Holding on to old attitudes and beliefs can be draining.  Consider that it can be just as draining to avoid responsibilities that are legitimately yours.  It is the ignorant victim who foolishly leaves the window open and unwittingly invites the vampire to visit.  Other internal vampires include neediness, self-doubt, lack of forgiveness and judgments.  All of these kill passion for life.  Commit to emotional healing and your vampires will return to the grave where they belong.

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I’m dreaming of skeletons!

This weekend is Halloween; the day of the dead.  All Hallows Eve is the moment in our solar cycle where the veil between the visible world and the invisible realms is considered to be the most penetrable.  Since dreams are clearly an inhabitant of the other side of life, I honor this “holiday” with a few dictionary terms that are Halloween-inspired.  Today’s term is Skeleton.  Check back over the next few days for more spooky symbols!!

Skeleton

Universal Landscape:  Hidden structure, old or outdated foundations.

Dreaming Lens:  Is the skeleton complete or fractured?  Is it a medical skeleton that is clean and pristine or is it buried and partially decayed?  Is the skeleton recognizable as having once supported someone known to you?  Does it frighten you or intrigue you?

Personal Focus:  Skeletons support the physical body and are not readily visible to the outside world.  They are the foundation on which everything else is built.  In the dream world, they represent this same underlying structure of our bodies, ourselves and our lives.  A skeleton is the invisible underpinning of any physical, conceptual, emotional or spiritual construct in your waking life.

The skeleton of our lives is the structure of ideas, beliefs and myths around which we superimpose our sense of self.  When you can see the skeleton of something, you have a better idea of what is supporting it or holding it upright.  If you dream of this image, you might be getting a message that something in the structure needs to be examined.

Discovering a skeleton in a closet may suggest that some of your thought structures may be outdated and need to be taken out and contemplated.  If a skeleton is being studied in a laboratory, it may be time to explore the underlying structure of something–ask what’s underneath so you may better discover ways of managing an area of your life.

Consider what context the skeleton appears in the dream and how you respond to it emotionally.  A sense of fear (“shaken to the bones”) means you may fear confronting some underlying structure that you have perhaps taken for granted.  Do you need to reconsider your beliefs about something or someone?  If so, you may dream of a skeleton appearing as a result of such an investigation.  Your familiarity or comfort level with seeing the skeleton will match the insight you are having as the essence of that area of your life is exposed to your inner view.

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Abandonment in dreams.

Yesterday I posted the dictionary term Zoo, the last term in Dream Sight.  Today, I go back from Z to A and share with you the first term in the dictionary, which is Abandonment.
Abandonment
 
Universal Landscape:
  Fears around self-worth.
 
Dreaming Lens:  Who abandons you in your dream?  What are the circumstances around the abandonment?  Are there legitimate reasons for being left?  What is your emotional reaction to being abandoned?  What do you do as a result?  Do you collapse?  Do you take action?  Are you the one doing the abandoning?
 
Personal Focus:  The concept of abandonment is a fear-based illusion.  The feelings that come up when someone has left us are personal and rarely about the one doing the leaving.  The fear of being left alone is primitive in nature and has its roots in infancy.  If the loss resonates deeply enough, the emotional reaction taps into a deep reservoir of historical injuries and we experience it as a painful abandonment. The essence of this experience is connecting to what it feels like to be alone with ourselves in moments of vulnerability.  Thinking that you do not have the ability to face life on your own, especially in moments of adversity, is a falsehood born out of fear.  Overwhelming emotions are often accompanied by irrational thoughts that focus on our weaknesses and invalidate our strengths.

Dreaming of a circumstance in which this is a primary theme, is likely to be compensating for something in your waking life that is triggering thoughts of abandonment, whether consciously or unconsciously.  By processing these feelings in the dream state, we are better prepared to face the world when we wake.  Pay close attention to who is abandoning you as this will factor powerfully into your interpretation.

In a dream, we may be examining ways in which we abandon ourselves.   Even if the dream mirrors a life situation where someone you know is not available to you, use the concept of the character aspect as a mirror.  It may be that part of you is currently inaccessible to your sense of self.  For example, being abandoned by a boss might indicate a lack of inner authority available to handle a difficult situation.

The value of any abandonment, in life or in a dream, is being forced to see how we can survive when stripped of what we perceive as necessary for our existence.  To feel abandoned is to accept a myth that we are not okay without the assistance of others.  A dream may be helping you see where you are not trusting your own instincts and resources by allowing you to suffer an abandonment and find the strength to continue on that journey.

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